It really broke and touched my heart seeing her give her big sister the money from her piggy bank. Last night she called and apologized to her sister. And the award for most passive-aggressive conversation goes to………….. Matt & Jonas! I was conditioned to rely totally on them…break ties with family and tell them my every thought and deed. Changing my life, how much I drank, when I drank… But I could not stay sober. Position. I picked this program for my child specifically because it tries to help the whole person. It’s very sad that this story ended so tragically. Intervention comes back on January 2nd, as per this FB post. Until people accept this, they are the “once an addict always an addict”. Intervention works with treatment and recovery centers throughout the United States and Canada. I am cool. That ‘evident-at-all times’ compassion and respect is the tell of a healthy group dynamic/supporter -no matter what methodology/philosophy is being utilized by them in the name of recovery. Simply being drug free without deeply understanding how you got there and filling that emptiness with yourself is not the best solution. http://www.LeavingAA.com. Steven Slate I was addicted to just about everything, tho. It is like she has fallen off the earth. Another tell is when they imply that ‘no other resource’ will ‘truly’ end up helping them to sustainable recovery. It’s messed up bit it happens. Also, the AA/NA programs/ 12 steps are one method and should not be considered the ONLY method because there isn’t ONE THING that is best for everyone (For a way out example- even water, there have been cases of people allergic to water..”Aquagenic urticaria”…there is no one perfect thing that will work for everyone). She’s a beautiful girl and some things she went through really resonated with me. When you think it’s worked, you attribute success to those words and ideas, but when it doesn’t work, then it’s just “relapse happen” and “the disease of addiction took over”??? I cried so much during this show! just wanted to move wherever she was living and take care of her and teach her about how to stay clean. We was still friends when her mom was pregnant and had Kaylee. Nope…. I don’t know that I believe addiction is a disease but to suggest the addicted should just go on until they are done doing what they are going to do is to suggest that their loved ones should just continue to bear the worst of their behavior. “Nope” as in you won’t answer? Who doesn’t want what used to be fun and what normal people can do?! When speaking of doing this everyday as a daily routine, this is a civilized thing to do. I say all this not to brag, but to shake a son of a bitch by the collar and say “wake up asshole!! Perhaps patients could be put in homes with people who just don’t and never have used or drunk and who just lead normal lives with different activities to learn, but the patients could still go to individual doctors’ appointments and counseling sessions for their own personal mental health issues. I have, however, hurt and annoyed a lot of people verbally/emotionally over the years when I get really drunk. "Addiction is a choice" - that is, you can choose whether to hold or dismiss every thought and belief that motivates you to use substances heavily - and thus you can choose whether to continue any pattern of substance use or not - at will. Its not so much the lack of jobs as its family traditions and education, the backwards, country folks, live some crazy lives. It was my choice. i hope she is doing well! Anyway what was wrong with her mom’s face? Don’t get me wrong please. Explains the name too. Any man who brakes daughters fingers need to be committed. Can’t wait to here the response. I eventually was offered a the position of managing that Sober Living. But, here’s the thing…When an individual or group demonstrates a need to announce/state that they are called on by a ‘higher authority’ to serve humanity then…. It seems like the common AA response of “They never really had The Disease, then” when you tell an AAer about someone who get clean without AA. I don’t remember Kaylene mom saying she did drugs w her. I was addicted to alcohol for 16 years, and prescription drugs for 5 years! OH, and by the way, I have never been arrested for anything!!! The drugs I stopped when my son was born 13 yrs ago and have had no desire to do them. So she’s on methadone, BFD. It sorta sucks, for a few minutes, once in a while. You most certainly ALWAYS have a choice. What Steven offered regarding recovery rates is correct: “There are much more scientific studies out there, done on exponentially larger groups which say that treated groups generally don’t fair better than untreated groups in the end”. 3, if you count Kaylee. I think it’s important that no matter what view everyone here has, you can not INFALLIBLY separate out case by case what minute aspects of an individuals/addicts personality, psychological makeup, internal wiring, memories, etc are going to lead them down Path A vs. Maybe you watch too much tv. Before I entered my road to recovery with AA, I got no pleasure from either! Whether it was a coincidence or because of AA that when I started to believe in God, I quit! And these concepts do not only apply to alcohol. Later, she and her mother began using coke together. View the profiles of people named Karlene Riddle. It impedes your judgement and triggers something in you. Am I the only one who thinks Kaylee is not a sister but Kaylene’s daughter? It is feeling confident and good about yourself. Because being honest with an addict clearly only serves to MAKE them use again. When it is suggested or implied by a 12 step subscriber that “in the case that 12 step does not work for someone, the reason is the person just “didn’t follow the steps”- that’s usually an unfortunate indication that they are one of the more vulnerable, toxified by a dominant, negative ‘influencer’ in their peer group. Dizzy; November 28, 2017; This site is dedicated to presenting a different view of addiction: That it is all about choice, and that you can permanently change your substance use habits without fear of relapse or a lifetime spent in meetings and treatment. I feel so badly for you, Matt. Get real choosy about what and who you allow in your ‘head space’. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of any original written material on this website without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. And the alternatives, whether self recovery or some other method are just the same- it will work for some and not for others. Personally, I was told relentlessly at my first rehab that I hadn’t had enough yet, wasn’t done yet, and that I’d be shooting up soon – and I conformed to that message, starting to use drugs intravenously within a week of leaving rehab! I read your original post and some, but not all, of the comments and responses. . Kaylene is a beautiful girl. I would first, like to thank God for this amazing award…. Your sick to want someone dead who needs help! There is literally no coherent scientific explanation for this. You really touched my heart. The reason for this may be related to the fact that when you go to rehab, it gets pounded into your head that “you’re not done yet” or that “you haven’t had enough” or that “you haven’t hit rock bottom yet.”  In some sense, even though he was in control of his actions, your son may have been a victim of beliefs that were taught to him by the very people who were supposed to be helping him. Just because I don’t sugarcoat doesn’t make me a dick. View the profiles of people named Kaylene Riddle. :*☆ (@kayleneeeechoo) 685 Followers, 480 Following, 204 Posts - See Instagram photos and videos from Kaeleen Brave (@bravekaeleen) In order to stay sober, AA members need to work their program as suggested in the Big Book! Shit, even when I was a smoker I always smoked outside.. who wants to smell like an ashtray constantly, and let’s not forget about 2nd & 3rd hand smoke… JFC. But, the fact that these kinds of group dynamics/people exist is not reason to stop trying the ‘next’ something that will support your recovery goals. I’m powerless! Looks like she was arrested in March for drug paraphernalia.